(now by doing something stupid, we don't totally mean breaking the law, but when you are a spouse of a soldier, you need to have some time to unwind. This is when things get crazy. I don't know about other groups of friends, but for us this means totally letting loose, talking like we were gitty little schoolgirls, and dancing like we wouldn't dance in public. aka ballerina or step bump step bump bump LOL. In other terms.... being a total and complete nerd, and we all love each other a little more for doing it that way :)
(Keep in mind that we all come from different parts of the US. The one thing that we don't get to see all that often is how family interacts. I can tell you with the interactions that we have had, they do become like your mom and dad real fast. I think this happens mostly because of the fact that you know they are supportive. I mean there child is here and they are here for a visit, so you can see they support you. I do know that when family comes to visit, i think they earn a new respect for us... Our group is a silly one! If you can survive us, you can survive any group of people.)
(it has been almost a year since we all went out and had a ladies night. I can tell you though that this is so true. Here in Fort Riley, Manhattan Kansas is about 15 minutes away. Manhattan is also a college town that happens to have a few blocks dedicated to nothing but bars for the entertainment of the college kids. Those days were so fun and I hope that we get a few more before people start PCSing after deployment. I know those were some of the first few times that I had that much fun in a long time. Wouldn't trade it for the world. The other fun part is that for some reason college kids make it easy to have a good time. You can start the night out thinking your in a normal spot, and then someone dressed in a vikings costume, totally waisted appears. They provide all the entertainment and you can sit in the same seat, and laugh and laugh and laugh.)
(this has yet to happen, and I think I speak for everyone when I say that its not going to. I think we are all better behaved then that, and aside from that without the guys here and having kids, It would be a little irresponsible to let it go that far. I DO know that if this was "back in the younger days" we would all be screaming "Hold my beer and watch this shit!" Then laughing about how dumb whatever we just did was. But this is not the case, and I know my husband would break my fingers if I attempted. But it's funny to talk about the scenarios LOL.)
(This is beyond true. You see when we get together its generally a big event. There tends to be anywhere from 3-8 families at your house at one time. When that happens you can imagine its hard to cook and accompany that many people. Someone always brings something, and no one complains about sharing stuff. So there is always something that you find and you have no idea where it came from. )
(As was mentioned to me earlier when a friend of mine was reading this to me, there is no way she is going on a road march... But she is always there to listen. This is true for all of us. It never has mattered what time of night it is, or what we are in the middle of, when we see a call from a friend we all drop it all. We are always there to listen no matter what we have going on or how many things we are trying to get done. It's like an unspoken rule. We are all just there. We may not all do road marches, but we all do coffee, hotchoclate, breakfast, dinner, or a glass of wine.)
(This is the truest statement. I can tell you a few quotes or funny stories about each and every one of the girls that I am close to here. No one around us would know what we were talking about, but we do. We share the most embarrassing stories with each other. By most embarrassing, I mean the MOST. I don't think there is anything that we don't know about each other. We do it because we know that we can trust eachother, and because most of those stories are so embarrassing that they always make us all laugh.)
(After about 2.5 years in the Military life, I really thought this was a joke. Just something they say to get a giggle. However I have learned that for some this is SO TRUE. When you think about it, what else would you do when your freezing in a tent. It's not like your camping. You cant just go into the car and get warm, or decide it's too cold to camp and go home. Your there and you can't leave. Body heat is the best heat so I can't say that I blame them. It is survival skills and I would probably do the same thing!)
(I don't think that anyone knocks on my door, but that is all ok with me. I answer the door for guests. None of them are guests anymore, they are WAY WAY WAY past that point!)
(the most amazing feeling is to know that if I have a bad day there is someone there who is going to bring me some chocolate, someone who will bring me a bottle of wine, someone who will make me dinner, someone to help with the kids, and someone to make you laugh. It's fail proof and it makes me feel that much more fortunate each and every time.)
(this is the same as the items. We all had a rummage sale awhile ago, and within minutes, no one cared about the money, we were having a blast. Even if we were buying each others things LMAO, We don't worry about the small details.)
(We all just cross our fingers that this one never has to happen to prove it! It is a fact however, that I am close enough to these girls, to want to do anything to take any pain away. there are some of us that don't get to talk to our husbands as much as the others. There are so many times that we have had something bad happen or just a crappy stressful day with kids. With all of that there is not one of us that doesn't try and step in and make the day a little brighter or have encouraging words. We all know that our husbands would do it if they were here instead. Bascially we are all helping the men out at the same time. I really think this takes a little more stress off them when they are gone to know that there is always someone there for you no matter what.)
In all reality these girls are the best. This is not to say that I don't have civilian friends that would do anything for me, but sometimes thats hard. Here, we are all in the same situation, or have been at one time. We know deep down that without our friends, we don't have anything when we end up facing deployment. Friendship has become the most valuable thing to me aside from the communication I get from my husband, because that is surley a given! I was so scared to come here and worried about the girls that I would meet, or the fact that I wouldn't have friends. This has been the best group of friends and I cant say that I would trade this life and I am so damn glad I came. NOTHING will top this group there is just no way.
On a more personal note though, I was able to talk to dave on the webcam yesterday. I love seeing his face. I like the phone calls and the instant messaging too, but aside from seeing him in person thats the next best thing. I know that he would tell me if he was not ok, but just seeing his face is the most amazing feeling. Im so thankful of what i can have. You take for granted all the little things in life sometimes, but this has tought me to appreciate the smaller things, and don't sweat the small things. Dallas also had a treasure hunt at his school today, where the parents come in about a half hour before the end of the day and they get to take you around the room. They give you a paper and you and your child get to go around and show and tell you about all his stations in this class. He gets to show you what he does in all of them. When you find a station you get a sticker, and when you fill all the stations, the kids get to go to the class treasure chest and get a prize. We got one, he did so great and I was so proud I know that daddy would too. I would have loved to tape it for dave, but there was so many kids and parents all over the place, that would have been a giant task. Dave will be home before he is done with school so hopefully they will get to share of these things as well. Every Friday in his class, they have something called show and share. So they have to bring in something to the school that they can show and share with the kids. Each week there is a theme to what they need to bring. Tomorrow is bring something that reminds you of your family. Dallas mentioned that he wants to bring his daddy doll to class. I am sure that he is not the only lid either. But I am so happy thats what he choose. I told dave about it and he was so happy too. He said that if he had to bring something into work that was important to him, he would bring in the train that dallas sent to him.
I don't know if I ever told this on here, but when dave first left, Dallas sent him a little pocket sized Thomas the train that Dave could carry around with him, and Colton sent daddy his nook when he got him off of it. So he has something from each of them to take with him in his pocket whenever he has to go out. I know that they are special to him and I am glad that they all share that connection, because any connection is not easy to maintain while across an ocean.
I think that is all for the day, and I hope to write more soon. Have a great night... TIme for bed !!!! NIGHT
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